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        Well, this year has not been what we planned. But, you still want to marry that one person. That is awesome. Here are a few ideas about how to get married in the age of the Coronavirus that will help you do it with your sanity, pocket book, relationship and health in advance.

        Bride holds kn-95 mask during COVID-19 wedding

        Keep it small

        Many states have rules on how many people can attend weddings. I live in Washington State and we currently allow 30% capacity at weddings. That obviously changes and depends on your exact jurisdiction.

        But, I’d encourage you to think about the wedding in a completely new light. There has been a push in the wedding blogs for “microweddings” or elopements and anytime you have to downsize your wedding, it is easy in our society that values the biggest and grandest events to feel that society is saying your wedding isn’t a real wedding. That’s fucking bullshit (sorry Mom, I’ll add to the swear jar). But it really is. I hate to say it, but if you have a small wedding, you will be asked “oh, and are you going to have a big party later?” You are under ABSOLUTELY NO OBLIGATION to say yes. Your wedding is yours whether there are 5 people there (the minimum for a legal wedding in WA) or more. 

        And if you’re reading this thinking, “I kinda do want that bigger wedding.” That’s totally awesome! Let’s do it, just later. 

        Stay outside

        I know we are headed into winter. Which, unless you’re in California, is not the warmest and driest time of year. This is another reason to keep things small. It’s easier to get just a couple people to be outdoors in a celebration, but the more who attend, the harder it is to get people to maintain social distance.

        But, with that plan of being outdoors, there are times when it’s just not going to be possible. Have an honest conversation about what alternatives exist in case of bad weather and how to ensure you can keep everyone safe.

        The hardest part for the weddings that I’ve attended is keeping all of the safeguards you have in place as either the weather changes (or it got cold at night) or as people just got used to being close to each other. The longer they’re together, the more people will relax one little aspect of the safety plan, then another and another. So be aware of how to encourage people to stay vigilant throughout the event.

        Bride with bridesmaids wearing kn-95 mask at COVID-19 wedding

        Make it easy to be clean

        People are at the wedding to celebrate you. In that celebration, people are generally going to take the easiest routes to following guidelines. So, every little bit you can do to help make staying safe and sane to be the easiest option helps. Having hand sanitizers, extra masks and spacing out chairs (actually following the 6’ guideline) can go a long way to make the wedding better for everyone. Or, just have everyone come by boat.

        Less gifts at the wedding

        Whether it’s because you Marie Condo-ed your closet at the beginning of quarantine or just that you want to control the items entering your home, it’s a good time to encourage gifts of money, donations or to have them sent directly to your home. It’s just safer for everyone to have fewer spots that will be touched by all guest.

        In the same vein, you might want to think about an online guest book instead of a physical one. I have seen some guest books where the pens were cleaned after each use, but that was a lot of work. 

        whole wedding party, including flower girls, wears masks at COVID-19 wedding

        No more buffets

        I’m seriously wondering if buffets will ever come back. Also birthday candles. But, that’s OK. Catering companies are now totally used to making individual dinners and helping out. I would suggest doing your homework to find companies who also use reclicable or compostable plates and wear. Serving everything for the individual will increase waste, so it’s something else to keep in mind.

        Think about the safety of everyone involved

        I know that I take COVID seriously and so does just about every other vendor I know. We have to take this seriously because there are a few things at balance here. On one hand, this is our job. So as much as we want to photograph your day, we also need to keep ourselves healthy so that we can safetly show up at the next wedding. Many event professionals have fewer events than normal, so we all really need to make sure we stay healthy to be able to attend the next one. 

        Secondly and even more importantly, I do have a family too. Please be safe around me so I can keep them safe too. My adorable daughter thanks you.

        End it early

        Like I mentioned before, the longer people are together, the more they will revert to their normal ways of living and celebrating. So, to keep everyone safe, I’d suggest holding a celebration that ends earlier or is just shorter in general. If it’s still light or there are fewer drinks in people, they are going to better prepared to keep themselves safe. It might even be a fun idea to send people home with a bottle of wine from the wedding to celebrate together, but apart.

        Bride with wedding ring puts on KN95 mask at COVID-19 wedding


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